After sending my sister lots of "stuff" I was able to see and talk with her and she asked me to use my gift giving to charities around the globe who are providing basic needs to people, food, water, clothing...she said she has all she needs and more and it would honor her more than anything to help others. And so I will take back some of the abundant things I bought and refocus on doing something that would respect her wishes and warm her heart...what a gift she gave me - letting me know what means the most to her.